Standing together is something we practice.

By Show Up For Her Now · Perspective

It is easy to say we support women. The harder question is what we do when support is inconvenient—when the person accused of harm is a friend, a respected colleague, or a family member.

A perspective from the bonobo study.

A 2025 observational study found that more frequent female coalitions in wild bonobos were associated with greater female power relative to males. That association offers a perspective on cooperation; it does not prove a human strategy for preventing assault.

Bring the idea back to our own choices.

For this initiative, solidarity means a commitment that reaches beyond people we already know. We want a community where a woman’s background, identity, or popularity does not decide whether her experience matters.

That can begin with a simple question: “What would support look like for you?” The answer may be companionship, help finding a resource, or space. Our willingness to show up should include a willingness to listen to the answer.

Standing beside someone is different from deciding for them.

Support is a commitment, not a guarantee.

We should never suggest that stronger friendships would have prevented someone’s abuse. Responsibility remains with the person who caused harm. Solidarity is what we choose to offer one another, not another obligation placed on survivors.

Our goal is to make that support tangible, consistent, and available beyond the first difficult conversation.